In fact, many of their classic plotlines have become famously copied as rom-coms for adults. However, I do wonder if these fairy tales, romantic cartoons and romantic comedies create unrealistic dating and marriage expectations. The sisters recently watched Enchanted and was completely in love with the movie. Dedicated to your stories and ideas. #13 Everyone’s going to love my partner. This description speaks to individuals who have grown up with Disney films, and looks at the realistic elements of popular movies. Sign up for the Thought Catalog Weekly and get the best stories from the week to your inbox every Friday. This group is for you!” (“Disney Gave Me Unrealistic Expectations About Love”). Disney got a lot right, and we will love these animations forever, but here are 15 things that Disney just got plain wrong. Disney Although, now, come to think of it, sitting around in a lagoon all day waiting for Peter Pan (of all boys!) I asked them whether they understood what happened at the end when Giselle, the princess in Enchanted, realized the realities of true love’s kiss and happily ever afters. Change ), You are commenting using your Google account. I am truly tired of everyone not living up to my impossible expectations. I remember watching Cinderella when I was a little girl and admired the beautiful girl swept off her feet with the help of a little magic and some killer shoes. On the contrary, there’s a chance that someone you care about isn’t going to think very highly of your lover. People hate on Disney movies day whether for legitimate reasons like sexism or historical inaccuracy or illegitimate reasons like finding them childish or unrealistic. I’m going to tell you that I’m going to get married, and you will say “Congratulations! See more ideas about disney, disney love, disney magic. Ways Disney Has Given Us Unrealistic Expectations About Love. Disney movies always are filled with heartwarming, family-friendly moments that involve brave characters, lovable side kicks, and a moral that "the guy always gets the girl." Another unrealistic expectation that you need to watch out for is the belief that everyone is going to love who you’re dating. Elizabeth’s mom – Congratulations! I grew up watching Beauty and the Beast and Cinderella and spent my days dancing around my family room in a pink tutu singing "One Day My Prince Will Come." That relationships take work and that deciding to marry someone the moment you meet them is probably not such a great idea. […] Read more: http://thoughtcatalog.com/ […]. They present a vision of what love is “supposed” to look like. These story lines shape our expectations for romantic happiness. Disney Gave Me Unrealistic Expectations About Love For the young of heart who believe that: Glass slippers and pumpkin carriages are comfortable, Swapping your voice and family for a pair of legs is a good deal, Love transforms haughty beasts into Princes, Pretty girls fall for hunchbacks, Princesses fall for street urchins, Unfortunately, this type of love exists only there: a storybook. How about the story of Cinderella. Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Learn more about working with Thought Catalog. I have only now begun to realize that these movies are selling lies. 12 Movies That Set Unrealistic Expectations About Love THANKS for crushing my dreams, romantic movies! A vast land of imagination where dreams come alive and a portal to a world beyond ours exists. He does not exist. In 1937 Disney released its first fairy tale princess story Snow White. to come talk to you ... seems pretty lame. The unrealistic concepts that are put forth by these movies can be detrimental to people’s love lives and even to how people perceive the world around them. Unrealistic Expectations: 1) Finding love in a short period of time. How romantic comedies create unrealistic expectations. I am the one that needs to change. A door into a Disney fantasy land. 9/3/2011 c31 HopelessFeathers First of all, I just want to say that i agree with your title "Disney Gave Me Unrealistic Expectations About Love", it worked so well with what you did and hey, I'm glad i'm not the only one thinking about that and now i have to hunt down that facebook group. A look at five instances when our beloved Disney characters had given us unrealistic expectations about beauty, life, and love. What Disney Taught Me About Unrealistic Expectations In Love – Viralarm, What Disney Taught Me About Unrealistic Expectations In Love - GoViral, What Disney Taught Me About Unrealistic Expectations In Love - MouseVirals.com - Everything Disney, This Is For The Girls Who Are Carrying The World On Their Shoulders, If You’re A Disney Kid, Here’s How The Cinderella Story Secretly Did You Dirty, Why We Need To Redefine The Idea Of True Love We Learned As Kids. In the land of make believe and pretend anything goes. Here’s the breakdown: Everyone thinks your dad is totally nuts, and then he goes gets captured by an actual beast-monster. 2) Female in need of a savior 3) The female who is submissive/desperate to find love. I have lived my whole life believing in fairytales. I wanted to negate the popular phrase “Disney gave me unrealistic expectations about life” as a way to defend my love for all things Disney (which was evidenced by my wall that was decorated with pictures of Disney Princesses -and yes, sophomore in college- ) but decided that it might be more fun to argue against myself. The sisters’ obsession with Disney Princesses probably did not help with the unrealistic expectations of love, marriage, and romance. I’ve been babysitting these two little girls ages 4 and 7 and their little 4 month old brother for a couple weeks now. One of the really funny things I remember from that day was this certain conversation between Elizabeth = 7 yr old, Tom = me and Elizabeth’s mom= also me. Disclaimer: we came up with this post idea together. but now as an adult, I call bullshit. Belle. possibly, the desire to make expectations a reality (Byrne & Carr, 2005; Felberg & Kohen, 1976). Even though this shortcoming of mine roots back to media representations of love, I must learn to overcome it. I need to retrain my brain to be more open and accepting of others’ flaws. Create a free website or blog at WordPress.com. A happy go lucky song, because perhaps the harsh realities compared to happily ever afters may be too much to handle for one day. Disney – what are our dreams? ... great music! Disney, you see, contributed to the failure of many marriages around the world. I constantly sabotage my own happiness with the impossible standards I create. However, it is these dreams that turned my 20s into a nightmare. I’m sure at some point you might have heard this before – “Disney gives me unrealistic expectations about love”, and it is true. In the movie Robert, played by Patrick Dempsey, helps Giselle, the princess of Enchanted played by Amy Adams, that relationship is more than her immature and naive ideas of a true love’s kiss and happily ever afters. I have always loved this facebook group, mainly because I have always looked at it and thought THAT IS SO TRUE!!! And you know what, I could wait fifty more years and would still need glasses to find it. I watched as every leading lady found her happily-ever-after. We were lacking in people since there was only the three of us. There seems to be a pattern here that the movie Enchanted pokes fun at and seeks to change. Follow/Fav Disney Gave Me Unrealistic Expectations About Love By: White Rabbit Tale Being a damsel in distress isn't nearly as glamorous as it seems...I should know, since my life is the equivalent of a really bad Disney movie. A sweet touch of reality for those Disney dreamers. A look at five instances when our beloved Disney characters had given us unrealistic expectations about beauty, life, and love. Cinderella met her prince at a ball where she danced with him for one night. Not that this type of aloof view of the world is bad, but probably not exactly the most functional in real life. Disney films so appealing to their audiences was the sense that, somehow, this fairytale was directly relevant to them." I love Parker more than anything, but he drives me absolutely nuts sometimes, and vice versa. If you can learn to look past all his beastly imperfections, eventually, he will turn into his own version of a prince. Learn about us. Disney and other classic movies made it hard to be realistic about love. They present a vision of what love is “supposed” to look like. Disney has been doing a great job of bringing some of its cartoon classics back to the big screen for the younger audiences. The Little Mermaid, for example, turns herself into a human just for this prince to notice her again, then she gets married at 16. « ccandmfelder, https://timelapselifeline.wordpress.com/2011/08/01/disney-gives-me-unrealistic-expectations-of-love/. Love is romantic. We all used to believe our prince charming would save us from poison apples, dragons, evil stepmothers, sea witches, or whatever the hell we’d come up with and take us away to live in their huge castle…. When we spend our entire lives waiting for a perfect man, we miss out on a man with the greatest component of all: imperfection. Freeing me from all the disappointment and shattered hopes. It allowed me to take back the leash of my life and direct it the way I wanted. But if you’re blaming his wrongness on these unrealistic expectations you harvested while marathoning Disney movies in your parents’ basement as a kid, you might want to reconsider. See more ideas about disney, disney love, disney movies. I took on a new character and played Tom the fiance for the day. Sure, your trusty best friend will never leave your side and your mother cares about you more than life itself, but Disney says that your life will never be complete until you’ve found "the one." I have spent twenty-two years waiting for love-at-first-sight. The 7 year old took on the character of Elizabeth the bride. Media representations of love create impossible expectations. Just imagine that on a real person! This group is very cute and fun however; holds value in relation to people’s perceptions of relationships but also love. Another wordpress blogger provided an interesting insight on this very topic – https://timelapselifeline.wordpress.com/2011/08/01/disney-gives-me-unrealistic-expectations-of-love/. This might explain why myths about Cupid’s arrow or the inseparability of Tristan and Isolde remain a part of our general definition of love, albeit in varying degrees. Stream these movies and hundreds of others on … With all this being said, Disney has not completely failed me. May 18, 2020 - Explore Rachel Stephens's board "Disney Gave Me Unrealistic Expectations on Love & Hair", followed by 637 people on Pinterest. A man does not have to be a prince for him to treat a woman like a princess. But I think you may have an agreeable perspective when you read the 7 unrealistic expectations from Disney Princesses. A white horse is supposed to make for a happily-ever-after, storybook ending. Seriously, Jasmine’s voluminous hair (talk about unrealistic standards!) I tried to explain this concept to them today. Change ), You are commenting using your Twitter account. Starting from us meeting at a ball and marrying a day after. Yes you are right, many shows and films give the wrong idea. ( Log Out /  Walt Disney passed away in Los Angeles, Calif., on Dec. 15, 1966, at the age of 65. Why “Everyone Cheats” Is A Horrible Excuse, Stop Waiting For Prince Charming Because You Are Not A Real Princess. The 4 year old played sister to the bride. If I have gained any insight over the years it would be to always fall for the beast. Control gave me direction. Love at first sight is a super normal thing that happens. Magnifying, indeed. In the beginning the main character Giselle is obsessed with the idea of a true love’s kiss – that once she kisses the right person she knows for sure that that person is her true love, and thus they must marry immediately and live happily ever after. Change ), You are commenting using your Facebook account. ( Log Out /  I’m so happy for you! I find myself hoping that everything about him will be perfect. A white horse is supposed to make for a happily-ever-after, storybook ending. Disney accomplished more than films and the development of an … I need to stop comparing every man I meet with an idealized version; ultimately, men are going to do whatever the hell they want. Emphasis on the happily ever after part, because seriously what Disney princess doesn’t end up happily ever after? When I grew out of princess movies, I moved on to romantic comedies. Stories of marriage, of make believe, of Disney princesses, of love and happily ever afters. The man depicted in every princess movie is merely a character created to boost societal gender roles. Elizabeth – Honey, I’m going to go tell my mom we’re getting married! You, Disney have given me several unrealistic expectations about life, love and my damn hair. Everything about this make believe was fairy tale-esque. I’m sure at some point you might have heard this before – “Disney gives me unrealistic expectations about love”, and it is true. As portrayed in almost every Disney movie ever, we are told that true, "fulfilling" love is romantic and shared between a man and woman. You know you love them, which is why you still proceed to fawn over the perfection of Ariel's hair in any climate, and Cinderella's clear skin. The pattern of meeting, declaring true love right away, and living happily ever after. Is Disney’s Version Of True Love Just A Lie? They got engaged or married shortly after the on-screen kiss. I’m so happy for you.” okay? You may unsubscribe at any time. Unrealistic Expectations About Love and Marriage A blog about mental and emotional health By Sally Connolly, LCSW, LMFT Sally Connolly, LCSW, LMFT has been a therapist for over 30 years, specializing in work with couples, families and relationships. The strong and suitable man is supposed to save damsels in distress. Change ). After just one night he decides that Cinderella is his true love. The Prince finally finds Cinderella, and she gets whisked away into the palace where the Prince and her live happily ever after. He will walk the walk and talk the talk. Disney Gave Me Unrealistic Expectations Of Love. Many of the girl's go through hell and back to get the one they love, and most of them get married very early. [7 year old exits the room and comes back in]. Love will never look or feel like it does in the movies. Perhaps the girls should learn from an early age that Disney Princess happily ever afters only exists in Disney movies and in the land of make believe and pretend. While self-image is a big argument of Disney Princesses, their love stories create the same feeling. ( Log Out /  The sisters’ obsession with Disney Princesses probably did not help with the unrealistic expectations of love, marriage, and romance. The day I can start accepting people for all their imperfections will be a freeing day. They said no, and I proceeded to explain the concept of Disney’s false and unreal expectations of love. Feb 11, 2013 - Explore Vanessa's board "Disney gave me unrealistic expectations about life" on Pinterest. is actually wider than her waist. Disney theme parks and movies are clearly represented as fantasy, an alternate reality where […]. You selflessly take his place as the captive, and end up falling in love with this non-human creature that is covered in long brown fur. On the first day I babysat the 7 year old and I got “married”. ____________________________________________________________________________. My favorite song from Enchanted. A sense of purpose. 23. Me and Tom are getting married. Holding onto these isn’t only unrealistic, but it’s setting you up for serious disappointment: This may seem like a "dog on your husband" kind of post, but he came up with a lot of the ideas. Prince Charming. The strong and suitable man is supposed to save damsels in distress. The sooner we realize this, the happier we will be. 2.3K likes. Even Prince William does not fit the Disney mold (and he is a real-life prince). How Disney Sabotaged Our Love Lives. So without further ado, this is why Disney movies gave me unrealistic expectations about men: 1. Check out these 11 lies Disney movies told us about love, thereby forever screwing up our dating expectations. Follow/Fav Disney Gave Me Unrealistic Expectations About Love By: White Rabbit Tale Being a damsel in distress isn't nearly as glamorous as it seems...I should know, since my life is the equivalent of a really bad Disney movie. ( Log Out /  Romantic comedy is a genre that frequently depicts exaggerated plot lines and unrealistic outcomes, like when he fills your room with more roses than you can count, or when he chases you down at the airport to express his undying love—just in time! It is supposed to be chivalrous, romantic, and passionate. Submit your writing to be published on Thought Catalog. Should Women Still Believe In Prince Charming? Barich and Bielby (1996) concluded that esteem for love and affection in Elizabeth – Mom. “These are hard times for dreamers.” – Amelie, Posted in children, love | 1 Comment, […] be dangerous. It is supposed to be chivalrous, romantic, and passionate. By subscribing, you agree to the terms of our Privacy Statement. He did this by glamorizing and magnifying fairy tales that cause us — women, especially — to have unrealistic expectations about how successful romantic relationships are made and maintained. Enchanted is a wonderful Disney movie that in a way pokes fun of the Disney classics. 7 year old – Okay Carmen now you are Elizabeth’s mom. He would be handsome, romantic, and—well, naturally—charming. Why Don’t We Spring Forward and Fall Backward. Starting from us meeting at a ball and marrying a day after. Thus in addition to my character Tom I was also Elizabeth’s mother. She got everything she ever wanted: a man and true love. Perhaps this was a too grown up conversation to have with the girls, but I felt someone had to tell them about the misleading ways of the Disney movies they loved and watched religiously. I dreamed of wearing a ball gown and meeting my Prince Charming. Next thing you know the Prince goes on a crazy search for Cinderella saying if a girl’s foot fits the slipper he will marry that girl. 1. Although I only babysit on Mondays every Monday I leave their apartment with several really funny stories to share. 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